April turns to thoughts of Spring Adventures
Well it's been a month since I've come back from my adventures down in Arizona. This past month has been very busy at work, which left me with a surprise training trip to Cornwall Ontario so this past weekend was my down time and badly needed, some me time and time with my girlfriends. My new diet started today will be a 42 day phase that hopefully will reset my metabolism as the last round last September (2011) did.
My sweet Scottish laddie (N10) has come back from Spain, we've met and things are going fantastic. He is such a gentleman, likes to go out and do things. In June we are penciled in for a canoe trip out at Caddy Lake with a couple I know for the weekend going through the tunnels out there. He is experienced in kayaking, certified scuba diver and loves the outdoors, hiking, camping and fishing. He has so much potential to offer this cougar in the way of outdoor experiences and general life experiences.
When he came back he went back trucking again, but it's not something that would consume him as my last lover, it is just a phase to get to where he wants to be. He is a very enterprising man with a business savvy and would prefer to find a business in Canada to be home with his love rather than out on the road all the time.
Being in the trucking industry is hard on relationships, that is something I can understand. Whereby, I don't want someone 24/7 consuming my time, I do want someone who can experience life with me more than a 36 hour reset leaving virtually no time for us.
We also seem to be thinking the same thoughts, finishing each others sentences, so the magic number for me seems to be Number 10! I've had to go through 9 dates to find someone who seems genuinely interest in a relationship and not just sex with the cougar. Although my last relationship was with a trucker and I did fall deeply in love with him but my old fears pushed him away, or not, I think I finally began to understand and believe his first and only love was trucking, he just didn't want a serious relationship. I am going into this new relationship my all, with my heart on my sleeve. My fears, the things from the past that drove my demons to sabotage relationships are parked safely away in the dungeons of my mind and my arms are wide open.
He has already passed the inspection of my best-est friend and her significant other on a quiet evening together with BBQ and Sangria. The highlander as I like to call him has a good rapport when meeting people, it was something that I observed when I first met him on a date to the Imax and on an outing at The Forks. This gal is outgoing, and as one good male friend told me, I need someone as exciting as me, not boring, the highlander is definitely not boring. His tales of his trucking through the middle east would make for a very interesting funny book. The tales of scuba diving, sunken ships and surfing the fast running stream to collect scallops, the later reminding me of the movie Finding Nemo had my imagination running free.
One last thing, thanks to you my best friend, my confident, someone who keeps me grounded and puts my jumbled emotions into prospective, I don't know how I've ever managed all this years until you came back into my life, my poppy doll.
Sunday, 29 April 2012
Monday, 12 March 2012
Arizona Trip
Vacation time Arizona
Sun, warmth and lots of hiking is what comes to my mind. I left Winnipeg Tuesday February 28 with my girlfriend in tow. We took the scenic route to Vancouver to pick up my older sister and then on to Phoenix. I was ensuring that two people who didn't like flying made it down there.
Our first day my younger sister picks us up at the airport, my friends bag is last and she almost falls into the carousel but her bag finally comes out. Once the last of our bags are intact I text my sister to let her know what terminal and door to pick us up at, but she surprises us by coming up behind us. Our plane was late and she was worried we didn't get on the plane.
We get to the truck, and the tradition with her daughter is a can of beer on the way back, her aunty being like her, and not one to buck tradition says hell yeah and cracks the beer open.
The first evening we are treated to a home cooked meal of tacos with fabulous salsa, which reminds me of my trip to Mexico and along with taco's. We spend the evening at her place watching the movie Burlesque with Cher and Christine Arugula.
Our condo is quaint with a pool, hot tub, exercise room and pool table we will have to explore. Our first day is spent grocery shopping and shopping, bringing three tired travelers back to their condo for a good night sleep.
Day 3, we head out to a mission south of a Tucson, Tumacácori National Historical Park, have a fresh cooked tortilla with beans for a snack. The mission is old and dilapidated but they are bringing it back to life.
Mission San José de Tumacácori was established in January 1691 by Jesuit Father Eusebio Francisco Kino. Located on 310 acres at the town of Tumacácori, Arizona, it is open to the public from the Tumacácori National Historical Park visitor center.
It's back out on the road to the mission at San Xavier, what a beautiful place with a grotto and church. We have the native fry bread, which means lots of calories for this cougar, but the upcoming walk is worth the taste.
We finish with San Xavier and head out to Saguaro National Park to do one of three hikes. The first is a short .7 of a mile that I find peaceful. I find such a feeling of peace on this trail, almost like it's a sacred place. After this hike we head up to another of three trails that take us up to overlook the valley. I feel so at one with the nature in this place.
Enormous cacti, silhouetted by the setting sun, the Giant Saguaro is the universal symbol of the American West. These majestic plants, found only in a small portion of the United States, are protected by Saguaro National Park, on the edge of the modern City of Tucson.
That ends the day and it's off to the condo for a light dinner and a hot tub.
During this vacation the cougar is chatting with a charming highlander who is off in Spain right now. This man definitely is stirring the sleeping passions within me, appealing to my romantic, sexual and adventurous side. I can hardly wait until we are both back home in Canada to see if this is a path which both wish to pursue.
Day 4 is off to Tonto National Forest for a sightseeing drive through it and a lake that is set against a beautiful Arizona backdrop.
Sun, warmth and lots of hiking is what comes to my mind. I left Winnipeg Tuesday February 28 with my girlfriend in tow. We took the scenic route to Vancouver to pick up my older sister and then on to Phoenix. I was ensuring that two people who didn't like flying made it down there.
Our first day my younger sister picks us up at the airport, my friends bag is last and she almost falls into the carousel but her bag finally comes out. Once the last of our bags are intact I text my sister to let her know what terminal and door to pick us up at, but she surprises us by coming up behind us. Our plane was late and she was worried we didn't get on the plane.
We get to the truck, and the tradition with her daughter is a can of beer on the way back, her aunty being like her, and not one to buck tradition says hell yeah and cracks the beer open.
The first evening we are treated to a home cooked meal of tacos with fabulous salsa, which reminds me of my trip to Mexico and along with taco's. We spend the evening at her place watching the movie Burlesque with Cher and Christine Arugula.
Our condo is quaint with a pool, hot tub, exercise room and pool table we will have to explore. Our first day is spent grocery shopping and shopping, bringing three tired travelers back to their condo for a good night sleep.
Day 3, we head out to a mission south of a Tucson, Tumacácori National Historical Park, have a fresh cooked tortilla with beans for a snack. The mission is old and dilapidated but they are bringing it back to life.
Mission San José de Tumacácori was established in January 1691 by Jesuit Father Eusebio Francisco Kino. Located on 310 acres at the town of Tumacácori, Arizona, it is open to the public from the Tumacácori National Historical Park visitor center.
It's back out on the road to the mission at San Xavier, what a beautiful place with a grotto and church. We have the native fry bread, which means lots of calories for this cougar, but the upcoming walk is worth the taste.
The White Dove of the Desert
A
National Historic Landmark, San Xavier Mission was founded as a
Catholic mission by Father Eusebio Kino in 1692. Construction of the
current church began in 1783 and was completed in 1797.
The
oldest intact European structure in Arizona, the church's interior is
filled with marvelous original statuary and mural paintings. It is a
place where visitors can truly step back in time and enter an authentic
18th Century space.
The church retains its original purpose of ministering to the religious needs of its parishioners.
Enormous cacti, silhouetted by the setting sun, the Giant Saguaro is the universal symbol of the American West. These majestic plants, found only in a small portion of the United States, are protected by Saguaro National Park, on the edge of the modern City of Tucson.
That ends the day and it's off to the condo for a light dinner and a hot tub.
During this vacation the cougar is chatting with a charming highlander who is off in Spain right now. This man definitely is stirring the sleeping passions within me, appealing to my romantic, sexual and adventurous side. I can hardly wait until we are both back home in Canada to see if this is a path which both wish to pursue.
Day 4 is off to Tonto National Forest for a sightseeing drive through it and a lake that is set against a beautiful Arizona backdrop.
Saguaro Lake
The Tonto National Forest, Arizona, embraces almost 3 million acres of
rugged and spectacularly beautiful country, ranging from Saguaro
cactus-studded desert to pine-forested mountains beneath the Mogollon
Rim.
A short day with a stop off at the Mesa Flea Market where any number of things can be bought. I select a pair of Arizona Desert Diamonds, pear shaped for my ears, my girlfriend has ones that look like diamond shaped ones. I also pick up two t-shirts for the grandsons. One could spend a day wandering through the flea market which has everything from clothes to jewelry to furniture.
Saturday is Day 5 and we are up early heading up north to Sedona to hike one of the vortex areas know as Bell Rock. It's a almost 3 hours drive up from Casa Grande to Sedona but well worth the trip.
Gaze through the windows of the past into one of the best preserved
cliff dwellings in North America. This 20 room high-rise apartment,
nestled into a towering limestone cliff, tells a 1,000 year-old story of
ingenuity and survival in an unforgiving desert landscape.
When we first embarked on the side trips we went in and bought a year pass which has paid for itself, and something my sister and her husband can continue to use until next March on sites around Arizona. On ward through the beautiful desert high plain and red rock formations that make Sedona and surrounding area a spectacular place to visit.
"Bell Rock is one of the most prominent Sedona vortex sites. A vortex, if you’re given to this sort of perspective, is a swirling concentration of energy emanating from the earth that can have any number of attributes, depending on what kind of vortex it is and who you talk to. Some categorize vortexes (or vortices, whatever floats your boat) as male, female or balanced, and claim that their energy can affect the human consciousness and even one’s physical body."
As soon as we exit off to turn on Hwy 179 just before the Village of Oak Creek, I get an jolt of fuzzy warm feeling flow through my body, not just the hairs of the back of my neck. This one seems to be a powerful surge of energy and I have a huge smile on my face. The cougar is not psychic by any huge means, but she does feel things from time to time and has a belief in such phenomena.
We only have 4 hours to explore this area as we are looking at a almost three hour drive home. We have decided only to hike the Bell Rock trails it also is composed of all three masculine, feminine and balance categories. We choose the shorter of the route the Big Park Loop to Courthouse Loop to Bell Rock Trail.
Saturday is Day 5 and we are up early heading up north to Sedona to hike one of the vortex areas know as Bell Rock. It's a almost 3 hours drive up from Casa Grande to Sedona but well worth the trip.
We have time to stop for a pee break and what better place to stop for a short little tour than Montezuma Castle National Monument.
When we first embarked on the side trips we went in and bought a year pass which has paid for itself, and something my sister and her husband can continue to use until next March on sites around Arizona. On ward through the beautiful desert high plain and red rock formations that make Sedona and surrounding area a spectacular place to visit.
Bell Rock
"Bell Rock is one of the most prominent Sedona vortex sites. A vortex, if you’re given to this sort of perspective, is a swirling concentration of energy emanating from the earth that can have any number of attributes, depending on what kind of vortex it is and who you talk to. Some categorize vortexes (or vortices, whatever floats your boat) as male, female or balanced, and claim that their energy can affect the human consciousness and even one’s physical body."
As soon as we exit off to turn on Hwy 179 just before the Village of Oak Creek, I get an jolt of fuzzy warm feeling flow through my body, not just the hairs of the back of my neck. This one seems to be a powerful surge of energy and I have a huge smile on my face. The cougar is not psychic by any huge means, but she does feel things from time to time and has a belief in such phenomena.
We only have 4 hours to explore this area as we are looking at a almost three hour drive home. We have decided only to hike the Bell Rock trails it also is composed of all three masculine, feminine and balance categories. We choose the shorter of the route the Big Park Loop to Courthouse Loop to Bell Rock Trail.
The day is sunny like almost every day in Arizona as we walk the loop we meet up with a couple from Winnipeg, it is the second time my girlfriend has run into someone she knew, but then lots of Canadians winter down in the sun and warmth of Arizona,
We also partake of some of the cute artwork along the trail lol
Finally at the end of the Bell Rock trail we start the climb up the rock, we could have gone higher but was not in the gear for climbing up the rock to the very top.
Still the view is spectacular as we gaze out on the area surrounding Bell Rock before we head back to the vehicle to stop somewhere for lunch.
Tuesday, 14 February 2012
Never Ending Quest (Exercise + Diet = Healthy Lifestyle)
Some of you may wonder what that is, but it's nothing more than the goal to lose weight, tone up and be as fit as one can be. To ensure that your golden years are as full and active as your life has been up to that point.
This year something changed in me, although I've started off slow, I've come to the conclusion that my years are being numbered. My previous lifestyle does not fit the rest of my life, for this cougar it will be a year of self exploration into the world of fitness and healthy eating.
Since New Years, I've been on and off with the diet/exercise still maintaining a weight loss which is good, but I want more. When showing my daughter a picture of a woman who the local radio chose for what they call the "Cougar Edition", she said to me, if you continue, you'll look better than that. The chosen cougar was a weigh lifter, while I don't want to muscle my body up to that extent, I do want to slim and tone. My goal is to spend the summer in a bikini, something I haven't done since my youth, and to catch the rest of this body up with the 'legs'.
The challenge, but not so much of a challenge will be to ensure I don't over do the empty calories of alcohol when out dancing on my Friday nights. So far this year, I've been doing well, drinking a few, ensuring that no one can put anything into my drink and drinking plenty of water.
Sunday I started my new me, for two weeks my daughter has planned out exercises of 90 minutes duration. Cardio mixed with strength training for both upper and lower. Most of the routeen involves CD's from Beach Body, there is the Hip Hop Abs that Shaun T has that works out your core muscles all the time, then there are the Max T3 12 minute burst designed by Dr Ben Lerner, the Beach Body 10 minute trainers done by Tony Horton.
With each 90 minutes of workout there is always 10 minutes of yoga at the end to ensure those muscles are stretched properly. After each workout I take a protein shake to further give the muscles relief. The Team Beach Body also has a diet menu plan with recipes and I must say some of the recipes I've tried in the last two days are very good./
Benefits of Strength Training. 2-3 generations ago, physical jobs kept you in shape. Nowadays sedentary lifestyles are common: desk jobs, watching tv, driving car all day. Here's what strength training can do for you:
At the end of February I head down to Arizona for a month of leisure, but the place I'm staying has a gym and my sister is bringing her Hip Hop Abs. I also have access to the South Beach diet online so traveling will not be a problem.
When I get back from Arizona, I will start to ride my bicycle to work, something that I've never done. The bicycle uses a whole set of different muscles than dancing but I'm determined to enjoy the spring/summer/fall outdoors on my own power. One day I will be taking a bicycling trip and be able to handle the long days peddling an item on my bucket list. We also got the P90X series and extreme conditioning program that lasts three months and gets you ripped. Since this is an extreme program, the next month and a half will be to get me ready for that program when I return.
What made me make up my mind was a date with N9 at Smitty's Sunday night. I commented on him in my blog of February 5th. It made me reflect back on the dates and men I've known, and I wonder if some may have thought the same of me as I would almost always have something to drink upon meeting someone. I am not an alcoholic by any means, but sometimes drinking out in a bar, laughing and being around crazy people can be guilt by association.
I always reflect back on the night of October 15th, 2011 when I was out at a bar with only three glasses of wine and couldn't remember anything that happened. For this cougar who has way more to drink in an evening and remembered everything the only conclusion I came to was that someone slipped something in my drink. When I think of a drug being slipped into my drink or anyone's for that matter, these people doing it don't realize that it may cause someones death, that person may have an allergy to it.
Some of you may wonder what that is, but it's nothing more than the goal to lose weight, tone up and be as fit as one can be. To ensure that your golden years are as full and active as your life has been up to that point.
This year something changed in me, although I've started off slow, I've come to the conclusion that my years are being numbered. My previous lifestyle does not fit the rest of my life, for this cougar it will be a year of self exploration into the world of fitness and healthy eating.
Since New Years, I've been on and off with the diet/exercise still maintaining a weight loss which is good, but I want more. When showing my daughter a picture of a woman who the local radio chose for what they call the "Cougar Edition", she said to me, if you continue, you'll look better than that. The chosen cougar was a weigh lifter, while I don't want to muscle my body up to that extent, I do want to slim and tone. My goal is to spend the summer in a bikini, something I haven't done since my youth, and to catch the rest of this body up with the 'legs'.
The challenge, but not so much of a challenge will be to ensure I don't over do the empty calories of alcohol when out dancing on my Friday nights. So far this year, I've been doing well, drinking a few, ensuring that no one can put anything into my drink and drinking plenty of water.
Sunday I started my new me, for two weeks my daughter has planned out exercises of 90 minutes duration. Cardio mixed with strength training for both upper and lower. Most of the routeen involves CD's from Beach Body, there is the Hip Hop Abs that Shaun T has that works out your core muscles all the time, then there are the Max T3 12 minute burst designed by Dr Ben Lerner, the Beach Body 10 minute trainers done by Tony Horton.
With each 90 minutes of workout there is always 10 minutes of yoga at the end to ensure those muscles are stretched properly. After each workout I take a protein shake to further give the muscles relief. The Team Beach Body also has a diet menu plan with recipes and I must say some of the recipes I've tried in the last two days are very good./
Benefits of Strength Training. 2-3 generations ago, physical jobs kept you in shape. Nowadays sedentary lifestyles are common: desk jobs, watching tv, driving car all day. Here's what strength training can do for you:
- Builds Muscle. Strength training builds muscle: the stronger you are, the more muscles you'll have. Strength training is not bodybuilding however: building muscle is a byproduct of exercising, not its goal.
- Burns Fat. Strength training burn calories, keeps your metabolic rate high under strict dieting and tends to make you stick to your diet better.
- Increases Health. Strength training increases endurance, bone density & testosterone levels. Strength training strengthens your joints, lowers cholesterol & improves your sleep. You'll notice nutrition is important to get results in strength training. All leads to a healthier body & lifestyle.
- Forges Character. Strength training teaches you persistence, sacrifice, self-control, responsibility & builds self-confidence. You'll get out of strength training what you put into it.
At the end of February I head down to Arizona for a month of leisure, but the place I'm staying has a gym and my sister is bringing her Hip Hop Abs. I also have access to the South Beach diet online so traveling will not be a problem.
When I get back from Arizona, I will start to ride my bicycle to work, something that I've never done. The bicycle uses a whole set of different muscles than dancing but I'm determined to enjoy the spring/summer/fall outdoors on my own power. One day I will be taking a bicycling trip and be able to handle the long days peddling an item on my bucket list. We also got the P90X series and extreme conditioning program that lasts three months and gets you ripped. Since this is an extreme program, the next month and a half will be to get me ready for that program when I return.
What made me make up my mind was a date with N9 at Smitty's Sunday night. I commented on him in my blog of February 5th. It made me reflect back on the dates and men I've known, and I wonder if some may have thought the same of me as I would almost always have something to drink upon meeting someone. I am not an alcoholic by any means, but sometimes drinking out in a bar, laughing and being around crazy people can be guilt by association.
I always reflect back on the night of October 15th, 2011 when I was out at a bar with only three glasses of wine and couldn't remember anything that happened. For this cougar who has way more to drink in an evening and remembered everything the only conclusion I came to was that someone slipped something in my drink. When I think of a drug being slipped into my drink or anyone's for that matter, these people doing it don't realize that it may cause someones death, that person may have an allergy to it.
Sunday, 5 February 2012
Continuing Saga of Online Dating Part IV
Expect the Unexpected
Always expect the unexpected, went on the online dating site Saturday night and unhide my profile. A new man caught my eye N8 and after a little bit of back and forth, I gave him my number and he called. It was refreshing to chat with someone on the phone for 3 1/2 hours before my phone died at 1:30 am. Nevermind I had to be up at 5:30 for ice fishing the next day. This guy had me laughing throughout our converation, and when I called him back after I plugged in my phone, I got a wrong number only didn't realize it till the next day. He called me on my way home from fishing and we had a good laugh.
There is also another possibility N9, who contacted me telling me first he liked my eyes, then legs and boots. It appears this one owns a factory and wants to meet me at Hy's lounge and if we hit it off, he'll come down to see me in Arizona, he sent me two pictures, one with a back yard pool. He is older than the cougar, but hell perhaps she needs to date someone with money to see how the other half lives.
Ice fishing with my best friends was a blast, it was my first time ice fishing and I hope to do many more. The score tally, me being the first one to catch a fish, her boyfriend 4, me 1, her zip and my other best friend: Mittens, Hat, Ice Shack, the underside of the ice hole, my line twice. Thank goodness she didn't try to catch my hair, lips or ass lol. My poor friend wasn't having a good day, she was also seeing deers with tail lights which she simply disclosed as John Deer.
We stayed out on beautiful Lake Winnipeg all day with plus temperatures, my facial muscles are sore from all the laughing. I also pocket called my last love by mistake on the way home, good thing he ignored my call and I deleted his number once and for all from my phone. My friends and I had a good laugh over that one. With this being said, it is time for a nice hot bath to ease the fishing muscles and to get some needed sleep since I only had less than 4 hours from the night before.
Date night Tuesday February 7 with N8, not sure if I want to let this one pursue me, but it will be him pursuing not me. We played pool and a favorite pool place of mine, I won so I have a concession of asking for something in the future hehehehehehe. I found chatting with him on the phone and then in person two different things, he talks alot for one and by the end of the evening I found myself yawning more than a few times.
N9 will be back in town from business on Thursday February 9 and wants to take me to a fancy lounge, Hy's. I look forward to this, the cougar is not use to someone with money wanting to take her out. Perhaps she will like it and want it to continue.
Wednesday N9 called, and red flags popping up, so not sure if this is something I'll let pursue me. Profile hidden, going to work on me prior to Arizona....so stay tuned.
Sunday evening rolls in an N9 called to get together, I choose Smitty's where I'll meet him. When I come in he is already there sitting drinking red wine. I tell the waitress I will have a glass of water, on strict diet/exercise regime for two weeks. We chat, he makes me laugh, we share some celery and wings, but the one thing I can't get out of my mind as he orders another craft of wine is that he feels like a drinker. Here he is sitting drinking wine while he is fighting a DUI, no amount of good looks or laughter can make me want to continue seeing him. This cougar has changed her ways, she is looking for someone who lives a healthy lifestyle, exercise, healthy eating and limited alcohol. That brings me back to my exercise, I'm off from work now and have two weeks to give her until I leave for Arizona.
Always expect the unexpected, went on the online dating site Saturday night and unhide my profile. A new man caught my eye N8 and after a little bit of back and forth, I gave him my number and he called. It was refreshing to chat with someone on the phone for 3 1/2 hours before my phone died at 1:30 am. Nevermind I had to be up at 5:30 for ice fishing the next day. This guy had me laughing throughout our converation, and when I called him back after I plugged in my phone, I got a wrong number only didn't realize it till the next day. He called me on my way home from fishing and we had a good laugh.
There is also another possibility N9, who contacted me telling me first he liked my eyes, then legs and boots. It appears this one owns a factory and wants to meet me at Hy's lounge and if we hit it off, he'll come down to see me in Arizona, he sent me two pictures, one with a back yard pool. He is older than the cougar, but hell perhaps she needs to date someone with money to see how the other half lives.
Ice fishing with my best friends was a blast, it was my first time ice fishing and I hope to do many more. The score tally, me being the first one to catch a fish, her boyfriend 4, me 1, her zip and my other best friend: Mittens, Hat, Ice Shack, the underside of the ice hole, my line twice. Thank goodness she didn't try to catch my hair, lips or ass lol. My poor friend wasn't having a good day, she was also seeing deers with tail lights which she simply disclosed as John Deer.
We stayed out on beautiful Lake Winnipeg all day with plus temperatures, my facial muscles are sore from all the laughing. I also pocket called my last love by mistake on the way home, good thing he ignored my call and I deleted his number once and for all from my phone. My friends and I had a good laugh over that one. With this being said, it is time for a nice hot bath to ease the fishing muscles and to get some needed sleep since I only had less than 4 hours from the night before.
Date night Tuesday February 7 with N8, not sure if I want to let this one pursue me, but it will be him pursuing not me. We played pool and a favorite pool place of mine, I won so I have a concession of asking for something in the future hehehehehehe. I found chatting with him on the phone and then in person two different things, he talks alot for one and by the end of the evening I found myself yawning more than a few times.
N9 will be back in town from business on Thursday February 9 and wants to take me to a fancy lounge, Hy's. I look forward to this, the cougar is not use to someone with money wanting to take her out. Perhaps she will like it and want it to continue.
Wednesday N9 called, and red flags popping up, so not sure if this is something I'll let pursue me. Profile hidden, going to work on me prior to Arizona....so stay tuned.
Sunday evening rolls in an N9 called to get together, I choose Smitty's where I'll meet him. When I come in he is already there sitting drinking red wine. I tell the waitress I will have a glass of water, on strict diet/exercise regime for two weeks. We chat, he makes me laugh, we share some celery and wings, but the one thing I can't get out of my mind as he orders another craft of wine is that he feels like a drinker. Here he is sitting drinking wine while he is fighting a DUI, no amount of good looks or laughter can make me want to continue seeing him. This cougar has changed her ways, she is looking for someone who lives a healthy lifestyle, exercise, healthy eating and limited alcohol. That brings me back to my exercise, I'm off from work now and have two weeks to give her until I leave for Arizona.
Saturday, 4 February 2012
Freedom Calling
Freedom
I've always loved the sound of that word, it means one can come and go as one pleases. The cougar is taking a break from the dating game, planning her itinerary for her trip down to Arizona at the end of February, 2012.
I'm still going out to my favorite dance place for exercise, still laughing at the men that watch her or approach her, but not into anything serious at this time. Online profile is hidden, thinking when I get back to change to some other site where they don't have the same men, doing the same looking. This cougar needs something new, interesting and exciting, perhaps the trip down to Arizona will provide the new faces and experiences she requires and maybe something more long lasting.
It's really liberating how time heals a broken heart, I am ready to start the next phase of my life. The goal is to find the 'one' who will fill my empty void, challenge my mind, caress my heart and love this cougar the way she deserve to be loved. The biological clock for making love many times a day is ticking away, I don't want to waste one more moment, one more chance for a loving, lasting relationship with someone who deserves my love. Someone who is not self-centered, stodgy, boring, or who's life consists of work and very little else. Have you read some of the online profiles? Some of these men need to get a life and probably a few women who hide behind the veil of the computer, preferring just talk because their picture is 10 years old or they are grossly overweight or men almost bald (not that its bad) or have a sexual dysfunction.
I've always loved the sound of that word, it means one can come and go as one pleases. The cougar is taking a break from the dating game, planning her itinerary for her trip down to Arizona at the end of February, 2012.
I'm still going out to my favorite dance place for exercise, still laughing at the men that watch her or approach her, but not into anything serious at this time. Online profile is hidden, thinking when I get back to change to some other site where they don't have the same men, doing the same looking. This cougar needs something new, interesting and exciting, perhaps the trip down to Arizona will provide the new faces and experiences she requires and maybe something more long lasting.
It's really liberating how time heals a broken heart, I am ready to start the next phase of my life. The goal is to find the 'one' who will fill my empty void, challenge my mind, caress my heart and love this cougar the way she deserve to be loved. The biological clock for making love many times a day is ticking away, I don't want to waste one more moment, one more chance for a loving, lasting relationship with someone who deserves my love. Someone who is not self-centered, stodgy, boring, or who's life consists of work and very little else. Have you read some of the online profiles? Some of these men need to get a life and probably a few women who hide behind the veil of the computer, preferring just talk because their picture is 10 years old or they are grossly overweight or men almost bald (not that its bad) or have a sexual dysfunction.
Tuesday, 17 January 2012
Continuing Saga of Online Dating Part III
N4
Well I must say N4 who I will refer to as baby boy because he is 9 years 3 months younger than the cougar, seems to be interested, he came dancing Friday January 13th and brought a friend who's approval he was seeking, little did he know that I had my own friend there to see if she approved. His friend really put me through the paces, I almost felt like he was hitting on me. It's seemed he liked a woman with nice legs, skirt and heels and the cougar is known for her lethal legs, what did one young guy call them there that night....that he thought those legs were illegal.
It turned out to be a very interesting evening, pulling my baby boy in front of me a few times to stop the advances of his friend who I think was testing me. At one point, his friend is butt dancing against mine, so I ask one of my girlfriends to slip in my place, my girlfriend has a large beautiful booty and I chuckle as he realizes that it's not me he's rubbing his butt up a against. Towards the end of the night, here I was kissing my baby boy like a school girl. He wasn't driving that evening so he is indulging in the beer and I think abit egged on by his friend my guy tries to nonchalantly put his hand under my skirt. I promptly remove it and tell him that it is not the appropriate place, and beside the bartender is watching the antics. With all this excitment my resistance wearing down, I decide it's time for me to head out of there and on home, without baby boy. I have decided this year, a man will pursue me, but needs to get to really know me before I let him under my skirts.
My friend has approved of him, but like me thought his friend was pushing him thinking he would get lucky, but I was not budging from the new me this year. He texts me the next morning saying he was sorry that he was a bad boy, I tell him I do like bad boys, but I want him to get to know me first before sex comes into the equation. Since this is now Tuesday, January 17 and he is still calling me, I guess it's okay with him. The trust in his motives seems to be pure for now. I also asked if his friend approved of me and he said of course, his friend liked me, couldn't I tell. I told him I figured that, and thought sometimes he was a little to fresh with me, and a little disrespectful of baby boy, but he said he has known him for years and knows he was just joking, so I let it go.
On Sunday night we talk on the phone for almost 50 mins, I tell him I would like to get to know him and ask if he would let me, he tells me yes he will, a good indication that he is serious about pursuing me. I have already hidden my profile on the dating site, and haven't had one desire to check it out since the day after I met baby boy.
N4 is so good looking with muscles on his arms, something this cougar always liked on a man, I just can't get over that point, so this Friday January 20th, my favorite band is playing at my favorite place. Its Tuesday and I tell him so, he promptly texts back that he will meet me there. A good indication, he is serious about a relationship of some sorts, but this cougar will be moving very slowly, she was burnt recently and will not allow her heart to be put back into that position again.
Even though I will be moving this thing slowly, this guy is definitely one that I feel could mingle very well with my circle of friends, he is so outgoing, kind and considerate, a real breathe of fresh air from the serious, negative grumpy men I've dated in the past. I can honestly say I'm would be proud to walk down the mall with a look at everyone saying look who I'm with.
It is Thursday January 19th and after an interesting confession by baby boy, the cougar is back on the prowl. Although not seriously until after a vacation down to Phoenix in March. Baby boy met a woman on New Years Eve that he was intrigued with and she gave him his number. He sent a text to her but it didn't go through, through a friend she had where he worked she was able to send him an email. He needed to tell me that, because he was interested in her and I really have to commend him as most men would have just walked away without an explanation. As it turned out I know this girl, small world, I told him it was okay because I was letting him pursue me and wasn't totally vested in a relationship with him. Deep down inside I was thinking he really is a nice guy, but there was always something playing in the back of my mind that he was too nice, and not a strong type that this cougar needs. Besides the cougar still has deep feelings for the ex even though she knows that for him it is over.
Still it was good for the ego to have a young cute guy want to pursue me for the while he did, but eventually it would not be what the cougar is looking for in a life mate. I have the feeling that this one, baby boy will eventually be back with his wife, his childhood sweetheart, I believe he is just going through a stage of sowing his wild oats.
Friday January 20th, a night of dancing at my favorite place, with my favorite band. It is an interesting night as ex baby boy will be there with his love interest. I decide that the course I will take is to stay out of there way. The cougar dressed in short skirt, jacket, cfm shoes that accent her lethal legs, hair and makeup impeccably done by her darling daughter, I rock the club that night. So many guys trying to get my attention, the cougar is eating it all up. Baby boy's friend ( now a potential N5) the one I thought so disrespectful is now laying it on thick, he is trying so hard, the legs and short skirt has him going, he keeps telling me I look so sexy, he is telling the singer in the band that I'm hot. Silently I'm laughing, I tell him that all he wants is to get me in bed, and I also tell him it's never going to happen. Still he tries to convince me that we would be fantastic in bed, I tell him it's because one always wants what is unattainable, I tell him I can't be had. The naughty in this cougar is putting him through the paces, dancing with him as only this sexy cougar can. He is just about dying, trying to get even a slightest kiss to my lips, which I gently turn my head when he tries. I'm playing him, even though he is the type this cougar is usually attracted to. As the night ends, he wants to drive me home, I tell him I have my own vehicle and I also drive my friend home, he tells me he will drive her home to. This girl goes home with no one from the bar, so I give him my number to compromise and my girlfriend and I are on our way home.
We make one stop at 7-11 because I want to put some gas in the tank, when I get back in the vehicle my girlfriend is laughing she tells me you should have seen this guy in a van stop to let me cross as he starts to drive away, he is still looking and almost hits another car. Yes it was a very good, good night, it felt good for the ego that this cougar can turn mens heads. A thought comes to my mind, at one point during the evening I did look over at baby boy and thought "What did I ever see in him that I allowed him to purse me?", a nice guy yes, but definitely not this cougar's type, not a strong confident man that she needs.
The cougar has decided she is going in hibernation for the next 5 weeks before she heads down to Arizona. She needs to focus on a strict diet and exercise regime and doesn't want any distractions, maybe even not a potential N5 but one never knows.....stay tuned....
I don't know what it is about this cougar that young men find attractive, N6 into the mix from the dating site. He is only 41 years old and wants to pursue me, I tell him I'm heading down to Arizona soon and not into a relationship right now. I will meet him, he likes to dance, he even suggest that we could take ballroom dance lessons together. The picture he produced of himself is nice, dark, handsome one never knows, it seems that there is a parade of young men coming my way nowadays perhaps I should date them and reconsider.
It's Tuesday January 24th, after a talk with one of my girlfriends, it seems there was a girl her daughter new who was out at a music fest. She had one drink and went to a camp site to visit, well she didn't remember anything of the evening but woke up in the morning with blood around her. It bothered her so much, not knowing what had happened that she went to a hypnotist and found out that she had been given a ruffie, and the hypnotist was able to determine who did it and when it happened, she also found out she was raped by two men. I told my girlfriend I wanted the number of this hypnotist because I wanted to find out what happened to me the night my ex disowned me, he refused to tell me, and it's been on my mind since. I need closure to this incident and hopefully I will be able to find out from my subconscious everything that happened night that I don't remember.
Wednesday January 25th, this dating site seems to be hopping now, there seems to be a message from someone new almost everyday. N7 is an older gentleman and after chatting with him on the phone, he sounds down to earth and nice. Although I still wonder what breaks up a marriage after 35 year together, it seems nothing is sacred anymore. I have also decided that N6 is too young for me, so I let the texting back and forth go slowly to the way side.
I end out going out dancing Friday night and who is there but N4 baby boy, without the new girl, I sure had him pegged sowing his wild oats. I decide to chat with him at the end of the evening, he has this weird guy beside him, who puffs his chest out at me. I'm laughing inside because he reminds me of a rooster. His friend states he is heading over to another bar to get laid, I say under my breath, yes go. N4 ask me what I think of the band and I tell him they are really good, lots of good dancing tunes. He asks if I'm going to be there next Friday, I tell him I didn't think so, because the band playing is not so good, and I say goodbye and move back to my group of friends. The evening was total fun, I get a good workout of shaking my booty all over the dance floor with my best girlfriend and a couple of guys.
Saturday, January 28th, one month till this cougar heads to Arizona, I decide to go out for lunch with N7. We meet at the Olive Garden and have an enjoyable conversation. Six degrees of separation, turns out I know this N7, I use to work with him when I was in my early 20's. I knew his wife, she cut my hair for a time. His is a nice looking man, and when lunch is over we walk out together, he hugs and kisses me on the lips, and I let him as he is leaving he tells me it up to me if I want to meet again, that I have his phone number. As I walk away still laughing at the fact he is someone from my working past, I feel that I really don't want to pursue this one anywhere. To me the past was laid to rest on New Years Eve, this cougar is moving on to bigger and better things. Although honestly I still tend to revert back to missing my last lover. It is hard to lay this one to rest, I can honestly say I truly loved him, but forever what reason the man upstairs deems him not to be mine.
Well I must say N4 who I will refer to as baby boy because he is 9 years 3 months younger than the cougar, seems to be interested, he came dancing Friday January 13th and brought a friend who's approval he was seeking, little did he know that I had my own friend there to see if she approved. His friend really put me through the paces, I almost felt like he was hitting on me. It's seemed he liked a woman with nice legs, skirt and heels and the cougar is known for her lethal legs, what did one young guy call them there that night....that he thought those legs were illegal.
It turned out to be a very interesting evening, pulling my baby boy in front of me a few times to stop the advances of his friend who I think was testing me. At one point, his friend is butt dancing against mine, so I ask one of my girlfriends to slip in my place, my girlfriend has a large beautiful booty and I chuckle as he realizes that it's not me he's rubbing his butt up a against. Towards the end of the night, here I was kissing my baby boy like a school girl. He wasn't driving that evening so he is indulging in the beer and I think abit egged on by his friend my guy tries to nonchalantly put his hand under my skirt. I promptly remove it and tell him that it is not the appropriate place, and beside the bartender is watching the antics. With all this excitment my resistance wearing down, I decide it's time for me to head out of there and on home, without baby boy. I have decided this year, a man will pursue me, but needs to get to really know me before I let him under my skirts.
My friend has approved of him, but like me thought his friend was pushing him thinking he would get lucky, but I was not budging from the new me this year. He texts me the next morning saying he was sorry that he was a bad boy, I tell him I do like bad boys, but I want him to get to know me first before sex comes into the equation. Since this is now Tuesday, January 17 and he is still calling me, I guess it's okay with him. The trust in his motives seems to be pure for now. I also asked if his friend approved of me and he said of course, his friend liked me, couldn't I tell. I told him I figured that, and thought sometimes he was a little to fresh with me, and a little disrespectful of baby boy, but he said he has known him for years and knows he was just joking, so I let it go.
On Sunday night we talk on the phone for almost 50 mins, I tell him I would like to get to know him and ask if he would let me, he tells me yes he will, a good indication that he is serious about pursuing me. I have already hidden my profile on the dating site, and haven't had one desire to check it out since the day after I met baby boy.
N4 is so good looking with muscles on his arms, something this cougar always liked on a man, I just can't get over that point, so this Friday January 20th, my favorite band is playing at my favorite place. Its Tuesday and I tell him so, he promptly texts back that he will meet me there. A good indication, he is serious about a relationship of some sorts, but this cougar will be moving very slowly, she was burnt recently and will not allow her heart to be put back into that position again.
Even though I will be moving this thing slowly, this guy is definitely one that I feel could mingle very well with my circle of friends, he is so outgoing, kind and considerate, a real breathe of fresh air from the serious, negative grumpy men I've dated in the past. I can honestly say I'm would be proud to walk down the mall with a look at everyone saying look who I'm with.
It is Thursday January 19th and after an interesting confession by baby boy, the cougar is back on the prowl. Although not seriously until after a vacation down to Phoenix in March. Baby boy met a woman on New Years Eve that he was intrigued with and she gave him his number. He sent a text to her but it didn't go through, through a friend she had where he worked she was able to send him an email. He needed to tell me that, because he was interested in her and I really have to commend him as most men would have just walked away without an explanation. As it turned out I know this girl, small world, I told him it was okay because I was letting him pursue me and wasn't totally vested in a relationship with him. Deep down inside I was thinking he really is a nice guy, but there was always something playing in the back of my mind that he was too nice, and not a strong type that this cougar needs. Besides the cougar still has deep feelings for the ex even though she knows that for him it is over.
Still it was good for the ego to have a young cute guy want to pursue me for the while he did, but eventually it would not be what the cougar is looking for in a life mate. I have the feeling that this one, baby boy will eventually be back with his wife, his childhood sweetheart, I believe he is just going through a stage of sowing his wild oats.
Friday January 20th, a night of dancing at my favorite place, with my favorite band. It is an interesting night as ex baby boy will be there with his love interest. I decide that the course I will take is to stay out of there way. The cougar dressed in short skirt, jacket, cfm shoes that accent her lethal legs, hair and makeup impeccably done by her darling daughter, I rock the club that night. So many guys trying to get my attention, the cougar is eating it all up. Baby boy's friend ( now a potential N5) the one I thought so disrespectful is now laying it on thick, he is trying so hard, the legs and short skirt has him going, he keeps telling me I look so sexy, he is telling the singer in the band that I'm hot. Silently I'm laughing, I tell him that all he wants is to get me in bed, and I also tell him it's never going to happen. Still he tries to convince me that we would be fantastic in bed, I tell him it's because one always wants what is unattainable, I tell him I can't be had. The naughty in this cougar is putting him through the paces, dancing with him as only this sexy cougar can. He is just about dying, trying to get even a slightest kiss to my lips, which I gently turn my head when he tries. I'm playing him, even though he is the type this cougar is usually attracted to. As the night ends, he wants to drive me home, I tell him I have my own vehicle and I also drive my friend home, he tells me he will drive her home to. This girl goes home with no one from the bar, so I give him my number to compromise and my girlfriend and I are on our way home.
We make one stop at 7-11 because I want to put some gas in the tank, when I get back in the vehicle my girlfriend is laughing she tells me you should have seen this guy in a van stop to let me cross as he starts to drive away, he is still looking and almost hits another car. Yes it was a very good, good night, it felt good for the ego that this cougar can turn mens heads. A thought comes to my mind, at one point during the evening I did look over at baby boy and thought "What did I ever see in him that I allowed him to purse me?", a nice guy yes, but definitely not this cougar's type, not a strong confident man that she needs.
The cougar has decided she is going in hibernation for the next 5 weeks before she heads down to Arizona. She needs to focus on a strict diet and exercise regime and doesn't want any distractions, maybe even not a potential N5 but one never knows.....stay tuned....
I don't know what it is about this cougar that young men find attractive, N6 into the mix from the dating site. He is only 41 years old and wants to pursue me, I tell him I'm heading down to Arizona soon and not into a relationship right now. I will meet him, he likes to dance, he even suggest that we could take ballroom dance lessons together. The picture he produced of himself is nice, dark, handsome one never knows, it seems that there is a parade of young men coming my way nowadays perhaps I should date them and reconsider.
It's Tuesday January 24th, after a talk with one of my girlfriends, it seems there was a girl her daughter new who was out at a music fest. She had one drink and went to a camp site to visit, well she didn't remember anything of the evening but woke up in the morning with blood around her. It bothered her so much, not knowing what had happened that she went to a hypnotist and found out that she had been given a ruffie, and the hypnotist was able to determine who did it and when it happened, she also found out she was raped by two men. I told my girlfriend I wanted the number of this hypnotist because I wanted to find out what happened to me the night my ex disowned me, he refused to tell me, and it's been on my mind since. I need closure to this incident and hopefully I will be able to find out from my subconscious everything that happened night that I don't remember.
Wednesday January 25th, this dating site seems to be hopping now, there seems to be a message from someone new almost everyday. N7 is an older gentleman and after chatting with him on the phone, he sounds down to earth and nice. Although I still wonder what breaks up a marriage after 35 year together, it seems nothing is sacred anymore. I have also decided that N6 is too young for me, so I let the texting back and forth go slowly to the way side.
I end out going out dancing Friday night and who is there but N4 baby boy, without the new girl, I sure had him pegged sowing his wild oats. I decide to chat with him at the end of the evening, he has this weird guy beside him, who puffs his chest out at me. I'm laughing inside because he reminds me of a rooster. His friend states he is heading over to another bar to get laid, I say under my breath, yes go. N4 ask me what I think of the band and I tell him they are really good, lots of good dancing tunes. He asks if I'm going to be there next Friday, I tell him I didn't think so, because the band playing is not so good, and I say goodbye and move back to my group of friends. The evening was total fun, I get a good workout of shaking my booty all over the dance floor with my best girlfriend and a couple of guys.
Saturday, January 28th, one month till this cougar heads to Arizona, I decide to go out for lunch with N7. We meet at the Olive Garden and have an enjoyable conversation. Six degrees of separation, turns out I know this N7, I use to work with him when I was in my early 20's. I knew his wife, she cut my hair for a time. His is a nice looking man, and when lunch is over we walk out together, he hugs and kisses me on the lips, and I let him as he is leaving he tells me it up to me if I want to meet again, that I have his phone number. As I walk away still laughing at the fact he is someone from my working past, I feel that I really don't want to pursue this one anywhere. To me the past was laid to rest on New Years Eve, this cougar is moving on to bigger and better things. Although honestly I still tend to revert back to missing my last lover. It is hard to lay this one to rest, I can honestly say I truly loved him, but forever what reason the man upstairs deems him not to be mine.
Monday, 9 January 2012
Continuing Saga of Online Dating Part II
Continuing saga of online dating......
It’s 2012; my past love has made it quite clear he didn’t
love me back; he hasn’t made one move to talk or see me again. On New Year’s Eve I made up a list of things
I wanted to purge from my life for 2012, he was on the top of the list. Strange thing was when I got home from my
evening out; leaned over the kitchen sink with lighter in hand, light the paper
but for some reason it didn’t burn all the way through. The lighter had run out of fuel, so I quickly
found another smaller one and proceeded to light the remaining un-burnt
pieces. Can anyone tell me why it was so
hard to burn a few pieces paper? Was it
trying to tell me something? It was like
something on the piece of paper didn’t want to pass on from my life, but with
patience I finally burnt all of it and then washed it down the sink.
I did send him a text wishing him a Happy New Year and may all his dreams and wishes come true, but true to character he never replied back. Some men just don't know how to remain friends with exes. So now instead of wallowing in self pity, the cougar is made
of stronger fabric than that, I start the endless parade of dating men from the
current online dating site.
As I move towards finding the ‘one’ I will refer to each one
with a number starting with N1. Can
anyone guess what number I’ll be up to when I do find the ‘one’?
It is Monday January 3rd, a day I have off, N1 is meeting me outside the Museum of
Man and Nature, a first date location for me that is new, but then to bring in
the type of man one is looking for changes had to be made. Since I have quit indulging in the spirits
(alcohol) I have to find other innovated ways to see if someone is able to make
me interested enough to pursue for another date.
This gentleman states he is a successful
professional who stays fit and active and maintains a very positive outlook on
life. I He loves to travel and get off the beaten track whenever possible. He
also states he can be quite adventurous and would like a partner to share
things with and he cooks a bonus in a man.
So at the arranged time I meet him, not a
bad looking man for an older person, 4 years older than me. He pays and we enter the museum, wandering
from exhibit to exhibit, talking a few times about the artifacts. As we continue on, my pain between the
shoulders is starting to make its self known, an injury left over from just
before Christmas. The conversation is
light, but I’m finding that this really isn’t a good way to impress someone
like me on a first meet. The cougar is
knowledgeable, but also craves excitement and going through a museum is not
this fun loving woman’s cup of tea.
We finally reach the end and he suggests going someplace for a glass of wine or coffee.
Well the wine is out, but I humour him all the while thinking I just
want to head home as we make our way to a place close by that I’ve never been to but
wanted to see the inside of, Sensi Wine Lounge.
All I can say is the powers that be are with me that day, the place is
closed as is many places on this second day after New Years. With that gift from above, I shake his hand
and then give him a hug. I always hug
people when parting and he says he’ll call because we both work downtown, perhaps after work. Note to self, don’t give out where you work
in the future.
Tuesday January 3, 2011, enter N2, he is a late entry to the line up
but after a telephone conversation with him on Sunday I want to meet to see if
there is that ever elusive chemistry.
This date is simply for coffee or tea in my case at Tim Horton’s it’s
early at 4:30 and I ensure I’m there about 10 minutes early. As I’m picking out my apple cinnamon tea,
there is a guy who came in paying for his coffee. It’s him, he sent me his picture, so I
approach him and we settle on a table by the window.
This guy states he is an active fun loving
man who enjoys the outdoors, walking and going for dinner. He does enjoy sports
watching and playing but walking is a passion of his and he loves to cook and BBQ.
He enjoys all types of music except rap.
As we chat I feel that same comfortableness
as I did on the phone with him. He’s not
a bad looking man, but don’t really know if I feel the chemistry there. He talks about himself, his children and the
fact that he is new to the dating site, me being the second one he has
messaged. He then allows me to talk
about me, and I being me, tell him all about my life, including my recent
breakup. I’m honest if anything, he
thinks I was drugged that night as well.
I guess everyone I talk to about that night of the breakup thinks I was
drugged at the bar, now I know it’s the only reasoning. He also ask if I’m still hung up on the past guy,
he feels that it would not be in his interests to pursue if I’m still thinking
of someone else. I tell him I’ve purged
him on New Year’s Eve, deep down I’m still thinking not, but perhaps this one
can help me move on.
He states he finds me attractive, that we
have lots in common and feels the elusive chemistry, and then adds he wants to
take me to dinner Friday night, he wastes no time. My feeling is that he is genuine and honest,
so I quickly dismiss my usual Friday night out dancing with my gals and say
yes. To be continued......he calls me the next day stating could we go on Thursday instead as he forgot he was watching his grandson play hockey. I tell him I have other plans but will let him know next week.
Thursday brings on N3 a skating date, but since the
temperatures were way above the freezing point the skating canopy at the Forks
was mush and roped off. So my date
suggested a walk along the river bank since it was a beautiful balmy winter
evening. Since he lived a little closer
to The Forks and close to me, I offered to pick him up.
During the ride to the forks we talk about where we grew
up and I found out he grew up in the same area as me, although he was a little older,
our paths never crossed. He commented he
like my GMC Jimmy he had one but wished he still had it. We promptly found a parking spot and made our
way down to the river to begin the walk.
Not far down the trail we stopped to look at what appeared to be ducks,
but it was geese that had chose to stay behind, who knows why but it had
seemed they missed their flight. There
was a young couple with their child taking a picture of them with their phone. My date was a very talkative man and started
talking to them about the geese and ducks being able to fly down to Minneapolis
in a day. He seemed to be a very
knowledgeable man, and I was starting to become impressed.
As we walked he talked about his career in journalism and
how he was writing a book. Our walk took
us up to the Legislative buildings where I did some talking about a water boat
trip they offer at The Forks, guided with a man telling about the water levels
of the two rivers during the 1950 to 1997 floods, and in particular my
favourite about how the Golden Boy came to Winnipeg to sit atop the Legislative
Building. It was commissioned over in
France just before World War I. When it
was finished and put onto the boat, the boat listed to one side due to the heaviness,
so they had to break open and put it in the hull of the ship. The ship started out for Canada but the war
started and the ship was commissioned for the war. When the war ended the ship was being
dismantled when they found the Golden Boy in the bottom of it. It was sent on its way to Canada and finally
reached Winnipeg in time for the Legislative Buildings completion.
When our walk; which lasted about 40 minutes was completed
we stopped to have coffee for him and tea for me. He being a very talkative person and me the
listener the subject now turned to online dating. He said he had been on the site for about
four years and I was only the fourth woman he had agreed to meet. Then he went on to talk about his male
friends mostly married didn’t want to do much but stay at home with their
wives. When they did venture out the
wives would also call asking them where they were. He said he was not good being around a
woman’s friends, preferred not to, but didn’t have a problem with women being
around men. Then he asked me a question
that made up my mind about him, he asked me “what does a man need a woman
for”. I was kind of thrown with that
question, but decided it was better to left it unsaid. I did retort back that when I went dancing my
girlfriends I didn’t like to have a man around, because I don’t like to feel I
have to babysit them. After all it’s my
night out with my gals.
Needless to say it was getting late, me being thankful for
that, we were on our way with me dropping him off at his place, him saying
something about getting together again, and me thinking no way in hell that
would happen. No wonder he has only had
four dates, with a male macho attitude like that he can talk to the hand for
the rest of his life, I want someone compatible who will share his life with
me, not his friends.
So what does a cougar do on a Friday night, she heads to her favorite place, to dance the stress away.
While there I do my customary walk past the bar a few times, I like to
see who is there sometimes when I’m not on the dance floor. Each time I head past the bar, there are
three guys at the end of it I sense trying to get my attention. After the second time I sit down next to my
girlfriend and she outright states, “You see that guy over there at the bar,
the one with the leather jacket, well his eyes followed you not once but twice
as you walked by all the way back here”.
I state “ hmmm really”, so being the femme fatale that I am, I decide to
walk by again.
This time his friend catches my eye, I smile and his friend
stops me to chat. The object of my quest
leans over and asks,” Was that you last week in a skirt”? I laugh, feeling slightly flabbergasted as
this guy is so good looking and tell him a prompt “yes”. It was an opening I was looking for, and for
the next three hours I stand there chatting to him, his brother and his
friend. At one point he asks me to dance
and I’m very pleased as we head out on the dance floor and start dancing that
he has rhythm. Soon his friend is
stating he will be leaving soon, I ask if he’s driving and he says he is, so I
promptly grab and fill a glass full of water for him. It was nice to be standing so close to the
water for the evening because my glass was never empty.
The most important topic of the evening centered on Arizona,
the three of them might be down there at the same time as the Cougar. I ask his
brother to dance to one of my favorite songs, and then I dance once more with
him before the day has worn me in. I
tell him that I will be leaving for the night, he ask for my number but says he
doesn’t have his phone on him, so I input his number and send him a text
telling him he has mine now. I give my
customary hug and bid both brothers adios.
When I wake up in the morning, I see that he texted me in the
wee hours asking if I was still up, since I was out later than normal, I wake
up later than normal and send him a text back saying “I was up now lol”. He texts back asking if I want to do
something that day and I text back that I would like to go skating. He use to play hockey when he was younger and this strange thought that lately I've met lots of jocks, I was never attracted to jocks growing up, and he still plays
sometimes. I’m thinking since I’m not a
good skater he could teach me a few things and we could have a fun first
date. We decide on a time late afternoon
and early evening. This, by the way is N4, but he isn’t even on an online
dating site a bonus.
I meet him Saturday at 4 pm on an outdoor rink in St
Boniface. Conversation is flowing so
smoothly, my skating is wobbly at first, but with his hand I soon am skating
not too bad around the rink. I think I
like this skating, it burns lots of calories and fun to boot. But as everything, and my body telling me it’s
time, skating ends after one hour. We
step inside and take off our skates and enjoy a cup of hot chocolate. It’s time for him to go watch his football game
and I just want to go home and chill for the evening. As we walk out to the car, we turn to each
other and kiss, soft lingering kisses, he is a good kisser and I tell him so. He asks what I’m doing on Sunday, I tell him
lots, but I could make myself free for the evening. He tells me he’ll call me.
I call my girlfriends and tell them about my date, I’m smiling;
he is so good looking and younger than me I know that. I decide and tell them, I’m not doing no
pursing, if he wants to date me, he will have to do the pursuing. I hide my profile on the online dating site,
until I see where this will lead, there is still N2 who wants to take me to
dinner, but I’m almost certain that nothing would evolve from it. Although I’m still undecided, I know I have
to make a decision early because N2
said he had a good feeling about us, I didn’t tell him, that I really didn’t
feel the same. Still I'm not one to keep a man hanging on if I"m not interested in him, but I do have to weigh my options very carefully to ensure I find the right one.
Sunday he texts and we decide to go skating again later in
the evening, after his football game we meet at the same place only this time
the club is closed and we don’t want to put our skates on outdoors. I suggest a game of pool and get on my iPhone
for a place close by, the decision is a place at The Forks so off we go. When we arrive, both pool tables are taken
and a small Christmas party must have been Ukrainian lol was going on as well
as Karaoke. We spend the next three
hours chatting about everything under the sun, he is such an easy going
personality and I find we have so much to talk about and in common. The evening ends, I have to work in the
morning he has the day off, we kiss goodbye at our vehicles and are on our way.
When I get home, I text him thanking him for another
wonderful evening, he returns the text telling me he thought so too. Meanwhile I have a text from N2 wanting to
take me out for supper on Tuesday, I answer him that I’m not sure if I’m
available but will let him know on Monday.
Monday I decide I'll meet him but only for light appetizer's to see if there is something that wants to make me see him again....song "Colder Weather" runs through my mind.
At about 8 pm I receive a text from N4 and we continue with the texting back and forth for about two hours. He is a funny guy and the conversation seems to flow really good, could be a potential 'one', but the Cougar has been burnt, she does have a trust issue with men and their motives, so I'll just let this play out and see what happens, no expectations. I think I'll just play the part of the Cougar, after all he is ten years younger than me, perhaps I should just be a Cougar and see where it will lead.
Monday I decide I'll meet him but only for light appetizer's to see if there is something that wants to make me see him again....song "Colder Weather" runs through my mind.
At about 8 pm I receive a text from N4 and we continue with the texting back and forth for about two hours. He is a funny guy and the conversation seems to flow really good, could be a potential 'one', but the Cougar has been burnt, she does have a trust issue with men and their motives, so I'll just let this play out and see what happens, no expectations. I think I'll just play the part of the Cougar, after all he is ten years younger than me, perhaps I should just be a Cougar and see where it will lead.
Tuesday rolls in and I decide not to meet N2, a trip to the chiropractor for the shoulder blades has me running really late and I ask for a rain check. Instead I head over to a girlfriends to help her out with a competition and actually have a glass of wine. It's gossip night at her place and I'm just enjoying the camaraderie. My phone rings and it's N4, I'm surprised as I really expecting his call, we chat for a little while and he tells me he'll call me the next day.
stay tuned.....
stay tuned.....
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